DAY ONE

The conference opened with Harry of Family Life Network welcoming the participants and introducing the purpose of the seminar.

He informed them that the seminar was intended to counteract the well organised homosexuality agenda. That the homosexuals.

Well organised, well funded and have both national and international support.

That homosexuality is a reality. It is going on. It is alive in our country and it is a very great threat to the society. That the group mainly use the law as an effective tool to further their agenda.

That the seminar was calling upon parents, and the whole community to stand up against the group.

He informed the group that just the day before, Dr. Langa had been meeting a group of lawyers.

He then asked the group to state their expectations of the seminar. The people stated the following;

1.    Is it possible to change a homosexual?

2.    To know all about homosexuality

3.    Is it a natural or spiritual diversion?

4.    What is the extent of spread of the ‘PROBLEM’ in Uganda?

5.    To hear from those going through the fight against being a homosexual.

6.    Is it communicable?

7.    How does it spread?

8.    The position of Uganda’s Law regarding Homosexuality.

9.    Why don’t they quit?

10.    When did it begin?

11.    Know the strategies used to recruit into Homosexuality.

12.    Manifestations of Homosexuality.

13.    Skills to help Homosexual to drop Homosexuality.

14.     Way forward to Prevention

15.    Is it a biological defect

16.    What makes homosexuality thrive

After that he then introduced the objectives of the seminar;

1. to provide insight into the causes and treatment of homosexuality

2. to provide practical tips on how to prevent homosexuality behaviour among the youth

3. to expose the homosexual agenda, and the strategy they use and methods of recruitment

4. to provide Information and guidelines to respond to homosexual agenda in an organisations, community or nation.

He then stated that people will give testimonies of their involvement in homosexuality and how they managed to quit.

He intimated that they expected homosexuals to attend.

He explained that homosexuality emanates out of anger and pain. That homosexuality is a moral problem. The approach should be mature and understanding.

That homosexuality is coming in with a massive change of status quo just like in the US.

That sex is not casual, it is supposed to be dignified. Casualisation of sex is the beginning of the homosexuality bug.

That they use the law to set precedents and then cause change in societal perceptions. That once the courts have decided then it is a matter of enforcement.

Stephen Langa of FLN

That FLN is working to bring morals in the family. That the family in Uganda is under attack. That;

1.    Uganda is a leading Country in abusing Alcohol.

2.    Majority cases of sexual molestation take place in the home.

3.    Homosexuality is practiced in schools.

Why the family?

The building block of a community is a family.

A family institution is the bedrock for growth, development, character, civility, the natural learning base and emotional stability.

Therefore that those breaking it down will face the full force of FLN resistance.

Why morality?

These are the tenets and values for survival of a society. All civilisations manifest moral and spiritual corruption just before collapsing.

That the foundation of human society is a moral sexual constitution. Anything else is window dressing. Entire Civilisations are crumbling as a result of the way they deal with sexuality. Sexuality kept within the boundaries within which it was designed wreaks havoc. If something is used for a purpose it was not designed then you abuse it.

He then introduced the facilitators of the seminar;

1.    Don

2.    Scott

3.    Caleb

Mid morning phase

Mr. Don Schmierer, 72 years old from USA took over. He intimated that he has been in counselling and interpersonal work among students, professionals and leaders in universities, the military, institutions and corporations from 1957. He is also an author and has worked with homosexual recovery groups.

That the Method of Lecturing he will use will be Case Study Approach of training where the participants’ intellect and heart are involved.

He observed that In life there are struggles, life keeps on changing, and one should know that in life there are no guarantees. That he may not say only what they want to hear. That he has interacted with homosexuals and that some of them are good while others are angry.

Topic; protecting your child from homosexuality

That the key to this is understanding your child.

Influences on our children:

In life, a child is exposed to influences of the media, sex abuse, pornography, morality (situational ethics), demands for entitlements, spousal abuse, choices, parental adultery, chemical drugs, peers, parents.

5 Traumas that affect a child’s development:

Rejection (Neglect)

Incest

Molestation

Emotional Abuse

Physical Abuse

That of these five, ‘Rejection is more damaging to a child than all the other forms of abuse. It can involve abandonment, a critical spirit, perfectionism, insults, neglect, sarcasm, and a lack of physical touch.’

Paul Hegstrom, Broken Children Grown-up Pain (Kansas City, MO: Beacon Hill Press of Kansas City, 2001 Pg. 24).

That words can make or break. In life the words we say to others break, do harm or make. What one says can harm or uplift one up. So we should control what we say.

‘Death and life are in the power of the tongue….’,

Prov.18:21

same-sex attractions

that the homosexual condition may involve sexual acting outm experimentation and eventually some level of involvement.

He then relayed the story of the Brothers three who were affected differently by their father’s attitude, he later revealed that this was his own father.

His observations on life

1.     ‘Our family history influences us and has a tendency to repeat itself.’

2.    You can do everything right and everything turns out wrong

3.    God knows and cares about injustice and pain of His children. See story of the first martyr.

Practical tips

1. Practice emphatic listening. Pick out the others’ feelings not just words.

2. Be genuine in understanding what is being expressed with concern acknowledge what their words and feelings communicate.

3. Write down and say back what they said.

4. Engage your mind on the person telling you something by fixing your eyes on them.

5. Keep your mouth shut when you don’t have to speak. Do to others as you would like done unto you (Matthew 7: 12).

COMMENTS/REACTIONS:

• Bishop Ssenyonjo, expressed a word of thanks for encouraging the attitude of listening and doing to others what and how one wants to be done. That many of us are not listening to homosexuals. That he has been working with them for over 8 years. They should be loved and listened to.

• Another wanted to be given more light on the physical environment in which children go into homosexuality.

• There is more than emotional and biological that is behind homosexuality because it takes very little to have sexual arousal. The issue is to obey nature and what the bible says not to lie in bed with a man as one would with a woman.

• One wanted to know the sources of data. Don answered that a text book with figures is available.

• George wanted to know Don’s view on when a man goes with a woman and they have anal sex, that what would one call that?

End of the mid morning session

After lunch session

The session opened with a reference to John 11(Jesus with Mary and Martha)- listening with feelings. The moral out of this is that people have different personalities and we need to treat them differently.

That every person has the needs below.

Significance- worth

Dignity -self respect

Identity -uniqueness

Respect - honour

That he has often had the following words form persons who are giving testimony. That;

‘Someone believed in me.’

‘Someone was there when I needed help.’

‘Someone took a special interest in me, even though my parents did not.’

That There is a difference between affirming an action and a commodity. To affirm an action and performance one encourages the tendency to please. When one affirms a commodity, one affirms a character or quality for it addresses who the person really is inside.

Practical examples of affirmation

•    I’m proud of you, you showed good judgement……..

•    I appreciate you helping with your brother that was very thoughtful…..

•    I would like your opinion.....

He then gave a case study- Example of the ring;

A domineering hard nosed father had a homosexual son who had practiced it for 9 years, He wanted to return to the child and build a relationship but every attempt failed. Later he sought counselling help, but he didn’t change his ways inspite of doing what the counsellor advised. The son returned into homosexual life.

Then he gave the example of Jesus initiating dialogue with teh woman at teh well yet she was a Samaritan.

He then talked about Model unconditional love and gave an example of that that Jesus had with Peter.

Be quick to forgive

Just like in teh Lord’s prayer “and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgivr those who trespass aginst us’’

Forgiveness is teh act of setting someone free from the hurt he did to you.

It means giving up the right to be angry and strike back. Not necessarily that it did not matter to me or that I should be reconciled to them.

Quit beating yourself up. After you’ve asked forgiveness, forgive yourself and move on.

He then stated that the discussion was about family life generally because homosexuality is just an element of family life. We should look at the bigger picture.

Comments and questions

Question; How can a friend help a homosexual?

Response; Be receptive and help them be included in your social gatherings.

Question; How do we fit in a recent trend in Uganda where the family has got it all and the children embrace lesbianism?

Response;. It requires looking into how parents relate with these children. When one investigates, there is rejection behind or peer pressure.

Comment; Parents should not think they are the best, they should allow children to also contribute to an understanding in parenting.

Comment; What is it that makes people stay struggling against homosexuality however much they exercise it?

Question; Are people born gay?

comment; a parent stated that one day she asked her child a question as to why she gets angry. She told her that it was because she did n’t love her. That one time she heard me praising her brother and not her.

That they had to move out with her and talk to her as parents.

Mid evening session

Practical examples

CASE 1

You are a Senior Leader Pastor. Your secretary overhears men talking in corner and she suspects they have homosexual relations. She comes to you and reports about it.

Question;. As a senior leader, what thought goes on in your mind?

Responses;

1.     I would try and get closer to them and get to hear it from them

2.     I would verify if it is true.

3.    I would ask myself as to where I went wrong for me to have this in my church

4.    I would ask if they have influenced the community into it.

5.    That homosexuality has got into my ministry.

Question 2; What is the response you would recommend to the senior leader?

Responses;

1.    Find somebody they can confide in so that it is not pushed further.

2.    The senior leader should accept them as they are.o

3.    Senior leader should pick three members of the community to do an under cover spying to verify.

4.    Deal with the people and then deal with the agenda.

5.     Get the individuals and ask them to tell you about this issue then ask them to act in such a way that does not make people think they are homosexuals.

CASE 2

One of your key families receives a letter from their 23 yr old Christian son who is in college. He tells them that he is gay.

Question; What feelings are you experiencing?

Responses;.

1.     I feel pity for young man. So, I would pray with the family so that God heals the pain.

2.    I would feel unhappy as a parent.

3.    As a parent I would feel bad, but then as a pastor I would feel disappointed and fearful because the family is in bad situation. So, we pray with them.

4.    As a pastor I would first encourage the family to accept this situation. Then, we pray together.

Question 2

The parents are desperate, what constructive advice would you give to them?

Response

1.     Call the parents together and get them to understand that it could be the way they treat the son. Then call the child to understand that he is hurting the family.

2.    I would weep for the church and peers of the boy. I would then encourage the parents and son to understand it is possible to change this problem.

3.    I would ask the parents to give me the chance to handle the boy.

4.    Help the parents face the feelings they are going through.

5.     I know that there is self blaming going on between the parents. So, I would ask them to accept the problem.

6.     I would advise the parents that they keep the problem as secret.

7.    Parents need support through telling them to not reject the son but encourage him by counselling him and acknowledge his good things.

NB. It is important to know what feelings go through someone who is struggling about issues of homosexuality. Experience shows that it should not take big donor money for communities to be involved in interventions. It takes an individual.

CASE 3

You are a Christian teenager. Your Dad sits you, your brother and your mom down and says, ‘I’ve got something to tell. I know this will be hard for you to hear, but IO think it’s time I told you. I am a homosexual, and I am going to leave you and go and live with live with my lover Jason.’

Question; What would you do?

Responses;

1.    We look for his mentor who can talk to him out of this problem.

2.    That problem is hypothetical as far as Uganda is concerned. I do not think it can happen here. Here it is pathetic and abominable so no one can talk about it.

3.    This is the queerest question. I would plead with my Dad, hate him if I know what homosexuality is. I would get to a close friend of his and ask him to not accept homosexuality.

4.    I would ask my father what my mother did to him.

5.    As a teenager I would kill Jason

6.    If he is my father, I would ask why he is leaving my mother.

He then presented three scenarios and asked which of teh sins therein was greater. The scenarions were;

1. Two boys who are involved in a homosexual sex act?

1.    2 teenagers in premarital sex?

1.    A group of Christian youths rejecting a boy who exhibits signs usually associated with gays to join their group.

Response: All the above are sins.

He made a comment on the third scenario and counselled against rejection of homosexuals.

END OF DAY ONE

DAY TWO

The second day begun with a recap of what had transpired on day one.

Stephen Langa, lamented the direction that the world was taking as far as morality is concerned.

That if the trend continues, this country is going to face a total collapse. He warned of an increase in HIV if we didn’t change. He warned against strip dances put up in various restaurants. He predicts that boys will invade girls and rape them. Women will report rape cases but be told by police that this is the ‘Uganda of today.’

He then invited Don to continue with his lectures on parenting;

TEN TIPS FOR PARENTING

1.    Treat your children the way you like to be treated.

Comments;

1. This is not entirely correct for usually how adults want to be treated is not what children want.

2. Children are small adults and the childhood stage impacts so greatly on them

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1.    Allow children to make mistakes and still retain their dignity.

Comments;

1. If children are treated with respect and dignity gives them a chance to be accountable to the whole family.

2. A child who is a practicing homosexual should be allowed the dignity they deserve even if one does not agree with you.

3. Bishop Ssenyonjo alluded to the story of the adulterous woman and Jesus. He lamented that many do not regard homosexuals as persons with dignity.

1.    Give them breathing room to develop in a natural way.

Comments and questions;

1. What is the natural way

Answer; The natural way of a child to grow includes care from parents, responsibilities, obligations and rights.

1.    Reinforce their weaknesses by appreciating their strengths.

Comments;

1. Generate a list of the good things children do and tell them about it.

2. This will be the basis for looking into each others’ weaknesses and make a change in that person.

1.    Display unconditional love and acceptance.

2.    Be with them-take them with you.

3.    Don’t be afraid to expose your vulnerable side.

4.    Be open and honest about personal relation struggles.

5.    Affirm that your relationship with them is more important that any other issue.

6.    Make sure your children know that they are a very high priority in your life.

Mid afternoon

Documentary; The Way Out

The theme was whether homosexuals are born that way or they just choose.

This is broken down into parts of testimonies by different persons on homosexuality. They address questions such as there being a gene called a homosexual gene. Almost all the persons interviewed stated that they did not make a choice to be gay.

Most of them stated that they were searching for genuine belongingness, attention, and filling gap.

The second part of the documentary was entitled “where have we failed as Christians”. It shows the hate that Christians usually lash out at homosexuals. It calls on religious to change their attitude towards homosexuals. The church’s attitude points at homosexuality one of the worst sins. Church-goers should be consistent and good towards others.

The third and last part is entitled, How to help homosexuals move out. The key point was to treat each other as humans. The gay community asks for action and not words. Homosexuals are our neighbours. Jesus socialised with all sinners and saints to show God’s character to all.

That the documentary showed that those who were changed had been loved accepted by Christians.

Comments and questions by participants:

The major issue was that of choice. People did not believe that these persons had not made a choice to be gay. Don stated that there were persons who did not choose. Few believed him

Healing wounds of the past- book by Don

He stated that the book was a personal testimony. In it he writes about characters that depict a fulfilling life he enjoys after embarking on a relationship of understanding others and appreciating them as they are inspite of challenges like; accident, painful labour of a loved wife, and challenges of bringing up children in the America of the 50’s.

Observations

Life is not always fair and just but God is.

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After lunch session:

Don presented on dressing and outlook and the issue of being judgemntal of others.

Case study- the story of Sam and Kim

Sam appears at the youth group spotting an outrageous hair style and painted nails, all teh other boys shun him. Kim, a girl however relates to him as she does for any one else. Her mother does not approve.

Kim however notices that Sam can easily change. In fact Sam does change.

Question;

How do you relate to people who have numerous tattoos, multiple piercings, punk hair styles or claim to be sexually adventurous?

Responses

1.    It is the age disturbing them

2.    It is the devil

3.    Others pointed out that they had to understand such person first before being judgmental.

Question

How would you respond if such a person appeared at their church.

Responses

1.    I would welcome him and try to change him

2.    The church is a rehabilitation center

3.    I would accept him as he is

Question

Do you believe people can really change?

Response; yes, change is a fact of life.

THE PATH TO HEALING- BY CALEB FROM USA

He gave the following testimony

He grew up in a dysfunctional family. It is during the age of elementary school that he became aware of his attraction to persons of the same sex. That he liked watching men. He had feminine traits and looks.

Through High school, he got acquainted with hetero-sexual life. However he was just pretending to be like everyone else.

He continued;

‘It was after five years in same sex relationships and my continued service to church that I felt I wanted to change my attraction to men. I went through prayers, fasting and self-searching for answers. I broke off from my boy-friend. But, I still didn’t break my same sex relations. I once attended teachings by NARTH (National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality) and that is when I felt I had to change. Deep within me I longed for a man-figure in my life. I wanted to heal that longing for acceptance, affirmation and it was nothing to do with sex. I know this because I never had any sexual intimacy but just to sleep with a man in the same bed. I was all this time walking a Christian life. At the same time I was working with a construction company and they were the ones who accepted me as I was. Some knew who I was. It is their that I learnt holding how to use menial tools that made me feel I was doing things a man does. It is my belief that a system that teaches a man to do manly things can prevent homosexuality. Issues that deny one intimacy can make a man desire another man at all costs. But in order to change, I had to go through processes with a community that was homophobic. I managed to get someone who helped me go through adapting to healing. This man was a hetero-sexual and that is what has helped me. Eventually, I bonded up with my father. The problem we had with each other is that I played and liked different games for what my father liked. I believe that what took me to clubs to pick men for sex was still looking for connection with a masculine affirming love where I felt I belonged. What I know is that one goes into sexual intimacy just not to lose the man one is hooked to. Otherwise, sex is not all men are looking for in men. Men look for affirmation, friendship, connectiveness and support. It is possible to walk out of gay lifestyle once one is determined to take the long walk which is full of sliding back into homosexuality.’

He stated that masculinity is just taught. A boy must be brought up as a man in order to exhibit male traits.

The other thing is that he had emotional wounds from his relationship with his father.

He concluded by saying that change is possible. That men who are straight need to help those who are going to come out.

Questions and comments

1.    What are bisexuals?

2.    Do you feel it is okay to decriminalise homosexuality?

3.    why do people from good families become homosexuals?

4.    Is it easier for men who sleep with men or women who sleep with women to change?

5.    In your relations were you giving or recieving?

6.    In your life do you have wounds from sexual penetrations since you were the recipient?

7.    Why do you still keep your braids and ear rings?

Caleb responded

1.    That bisexuals are attracted to both men and women

2.    That for the law to be effective, one must be caught in the Act. Laws should be done through a value of standards from which legislators draw a given law.

3.    In a world that puts standards so high and so many requirements have to be fulfilled, there are challenges to meet needs. No one can meet all the needs all the time. In other words there is nothing like a perfect family or person.

4.    I don’t see a man who is confident in his orientation who goes to sleep with a man just for money or gifts. If it happens there are evil spirits in this situation.

5.    Braids are not a sign that one is a homosexual

6.    One has to be ready to separate from same sex relations. Second step is to get a support group. Be in position to go through group reading-competitions, exercises and giving testimonies. This gives physical connectivity. The support system that is able to support you as you heal has to have more than 2 persons. Value yourself as a child of God. Build a relationship with God. Involve yourself in understanding issues (Communication skills) and be able to talk authoritative about them. Identify thoughts and desires inside you (inner child thoughts in you). Continue looking for root causes into continued break in withdrawal; acknowledge that you can fight them. These frozen emotions can be the cause. Addictions you involve yourself into could be a way one’s body is reacting to a continued attachment to habits. Develop opposite gender relationships. Don’t be pushed into corrective marriages before you understand how far you are secure e.g. even with touches from same sex persons (healthy touches).

Stephen Langa also stressed that there may be wounds that one is not consciously aware of.

END OF DAY TWO

DAY 3

Morning

The day begun with a recap. One participant (a senior counsellor at Uganda Christian University) enabled the participants understand anger through the following model in which processes lead to anger are outlined ie Injury –Anger-Hurt-Hatred-Bitterness-Distrust –Jealous-Intrigue-Revenge-Rage –Stress.

That homos need love and so we should condemn the act but not the person. However one participant observed that although gays want us to understand them, they should also understand us.

Dr. Scott Lively; THE GAY MOVEMENT AGENDA FOR CONTROL OF SOCIETY AND THE BLUE PRINT FOR TRANSFORMING A NATION: EFFECTIVE RESPONSE TO THE GAY AGENDA AND WAY FORWARD.

Before Scott could start, one of the participants objected to the idea of regarding homosexuality as a disease. He said that ‘Let this conference not be taken to mean that it defines homosexuality as a disease, and that the conference (the first of its kind in Africa full of pastors, lawyers, health services providers and parents) is not about condemning. I want it to be known that we are not dealing with sickly or diseased people as many want us to believe. I hope we are educated on this. There are a lot of people out there who we need to know about: Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersexual, queer, quitting and questioning. Thank you so much.’

Scot Lively begun by introducing himself. That he has been married for 28 years, he is 51 years old, a pastor with training in theology and law with PhD.

His Philosophy in Life: Challenges can be removed by God and some cannot be removed because God still wants to show His character.

Why deal with Homosexuality?

1.    Because of two people who got involved in homosexual acts, one a 4 years old and another 19 years old. The 4 year old is traumatised and the 19 year old is still a practicing Homosexual. But I still like them as friends.

2.    Because am called homophobic. We were very effective in treating Homosexuals until the gays took over the clinics.

Homophobia then was fear of one’s sexuality now it means fear for all people of different sexuality / hostility against homosexuality. I don’t want to be a homophobe. Where is the line between homophobia and genuine homosexuals? Phobia is a mental illness (terminology that is a rhetorical tool of psychological manipulation). Tolerance is putting up with what you do not want.

The Gay movement distorts it as absolutely and integrating tolerance into acceptance. Sexual orientation is a subject to mean relation between yourself and the subject of your interests. Gay movement defines sexual orientation limited to homosexuality and heterosexuality. It fails to give a definition that can be standardised. Hate is an intense dislike for something or someone. When one is talking about tolerance it should be known that it is done at different levels based on degree of good or harm. Always check the source of authority. Even today it is not yet decided whether Homosexuality is genetically caused or not. There is no definitive study.

1.    In the interim if we cannot assume it is genetic or not. But if it is acquired then we can stop it. Is it a deviation? Or is it a disorder? Is it normal? Is it Healthy? If someone is identifying himself/herself towards a same gender person then it is a disorder. At this time he introduced some analogies to people being born with two genitals as a result of a genetic disorder, or left handed or skin colour. All these he said were reasoned genetic issues. And that is where Homosexuality differs for it has nothing to show to the world it is the state of mind of someone largely emotional based on physiological clues where one is oriented towards a person of same sex. A homosexual is a person who self defines that way. Teenage have a same sex attraction and that is where most Gay movement have capitalised on sending messages to teenagers to continue with the progression. Because they indulge in sex which climaxes into orgasm they get hooked. There is a whole network of people who are out there to keep you in the movement. Inclusive are predatory homosexuals who are always out to satisfy their sexual desires. However, there should be control on sexual drive. The fact that there is an impulse in you to do something does not mean to use it. Homosexuality and Paedophilia (which are all orientations) are equated along same lines.

2.    God does not make people make choices (lust, anger, lying, and homosexuality) without escape.

3.    If people are dealing with the struggle of homosexuality we need to deal with them with dignity.

4.    But the Gay movement needs to be dealt with strongly. This machinery has come out to destroy hetero-normative families.

The gay movement wants to defeat the family based society and replace it with sexual promiscuity with no restrictions except the principle of mutual choice.

NB; WHO, American Psychiatric Association used manipulated research results to remove homosexuality from the list of mental disorders. They handpicked 30 respondents who gave them the answers they wanted, he referred us to the article; Erogen cult.

Questions:

1. Why did WHO strike Homosexuality from the DSM?

2. Why are Homosexuals proud to be that way?

3. What is orientation

Answers:

Every person is a heterosexual because all the impulses of sex come from genetics and sexual organs. It is choices that differ. About WHO, well as a Christian we should not trust people just because someone with credentials comes around to use their credentials and change society. After 1973 after aggressive campaigns the DSM struck down homosexuality as a disease. The Gay Movement went in and disrupted conferences and because of that they drove people out of conferences as a result of civil disobedience. A few who remained were psychologically manipulated to vote for Homosexuals. Some Homosexuals desire to change but have no outlet. That is why many are into alcoholism and drugs.

SOURCES OF AUTHORITY FOR INFORMATION (Religious and non-religious):

SECULAR SIDE

1. Observation, experience, anecdotal

2. Logic

3. Aristotle (Teleology: cause/effect and design/purpose)

4. Scientific Method and self evident truth

5. Natural Law

6. HRD

7. Code of Hammurabi

8. Magna Carta of Britain

9. Declaration Of Independence

10. Universal Declaration (written in broad measures)

SCRIPTURAL SIDE

11. Scripture : Gen. 1.27(Commission to make families), Gen. 19(Anger against Homosexuality) Lev. 18: 22(A man should not lie with a man as a woman), 20 13(For these sins the land will vomit out its inhabitants)

12. Judges 19(…….outrage of against Sodomite Culture…….Ham had descendants who live now in Canaan. So they became Sodomites as a result of inheriting it from HAM)

13. 2 kings 23: 7(…..Sexual Perversion being broken down……)

14. Romans 1: 18-32(…..Truth is laid down by God…………….people suppress truth…………..in end they become reprobate minds e.g., Homosexuals.)

15. 2 Corinthians 6:9-11(……They will never inherit the Kingdom of God………..)

16. Jude 1:7(…….Sodomy is inhospitable because they go after strange flesh….)

NB. Sexual Orientation Laws have broken down Human Rights Declarations that had stood the test of time. Gay theology is used to break into communities.

DEALING WITH THE MOVEMENT OF HOMOSEXUALITY:

Causes and Types of Homosexual Dysfunction;

1. Sexual Abuse and likelihood of one getting into homosexuality are high. Not that all become Homosexuals.

2. Lesbianism is an escape from abuse of men.

3. Gender Identity Confusion that happens in early childhood. It is reinforced by poor bonding experiences a child realises as soon they become more conscious of their world. If a father/mother was not very receptive the boy/girl during adolescent chooses to identify with same sex person.

4. Rebellion against authority especially against parents. In order to appear of a different class/iconic class. The new way to shock your parents is to act gay.

Types of homosexual dysfunction;

All these are deviations from gender normalcy and the spectrum appears as below:

males

Man with gender normalcy.

Trans-sexuals who like feminine sex organs

Trans-vestites who want to dress like women

Effeminate

The one who is a bully

Super macho who are brutish and animalistic who want to hurt men and appear heroes.

Monsters are men who don’t have anything normal about them they are sociopaths.

Females:

Woman with normal gender

Trans-sexual

Transvestite

Masculine

Lip-stick lesbian who accentuates feminism

Extreme assertiveness (Doormat)

Extreme passiveness (slave)

Conclusion;

God did not make people who are in between genders. People can heal and gain their normal gender.

Question/comments:

1. Society should be educated on Homosexuality for the way we treat Homosexuals has been bad.

2. Why is it so important to take away consenting rights from same sex relations? Why should we stop two people from enjoying sex in any set up?

3. What effects happen to children adopted by same sex couples?

Response

Hetero-sexism is used to assert male/female orientation over same sex relations. Now this is the infrastructure for society to continue and there is nothing wrong with that. Homosexual orientation harms society. Criminalisation should be tied down to treatment. But private persons should be left in their peace. But if they are harming people then they need to face the law. Leave alone people who do not want to change. Those who come out in the public should be fought. We have an immune system in our body it keeps immune against diseases. If we don’t feed well then we suffer consequences of broken down immunity. This is the same with society. Homosexuality has been with us, but our society has been able live with it because of the in-built structures that place restrictions. The gay/lesbian sub-group should be left alone as long as they are not in contrary to Law. Children need a family setting where they meet their growth and development needs. I have met children who grew up in same sex relationship families. They tell me they would not want their own children to grow in same families.

Here, Stephen Langa interjected;

He said that: ‘….many people seek sex thinking it will satisfy them, but it is a good relationship that stands the taste of time and it is this that keeps someone content with life. In situations of broken relationship people will continue to booze, and get addicted…..’

The assistant wrapped up with a comment that Homosexuality is a deception, practicing Homosexuals should turn away from it. It cannot fulfil their life.

After lunch session

Participants returned and were given a chance to ask questions:

1. How would you advise employed parents who spend much time away from children to avoid setting grounds for rejection?

2. How can one balance affirmation between parents and children?

3. Is there any reference that says everyone is supposed to be a heterosexual?

4. How do you help someone who has a bigger degree of masculinity or femininity?

5. How successful will our strategies be if now in our midst are practicing homosexuals?

Interjection by Harry of FLN: This conference welcomes the Homosexuals in our midst.

ANSWER:

All answers can be given using the family model. If someone is having more masculinity or femininity, then that person has to learn to adjust in order to live a normal life. This is the same way one fixes people to adopt the Hetero-normative design.

Even in a tough economy, where survival is at stake if one is not employed a parent should find time to affirm their relationship with children. This time can be made by sacrifice and readiness to spend time with children. Affirmation from both parents should be balanced in such a way that they are loving parents. Parents do not have to be bullies to show they are macho.

Conflict of 2 world views:

1. Natural family view (Judeo-Christian Sexual ethic). It believes that sex belongs inside marriage. It should discourage any divergent ideas. It is very fragile because partners can go distant. Because of this, there are legal commitments to be made. And it does not allow sexual freedom (promiscuity) but restriction/fidelity to a single partner.

2. The Gay movement view is sexual Anarchy (Sexual freedom philosophy). This is the Gay-Agenda. Scientific Humanitarian Committee (The born that way) from 1860 spread from Germany to other parts of the world. It expounds that lesbians are trapped men in females. And gay were trapped females in men’s body. They coined the term’ Homosexual.’

This did not accommodate the mach homosexuals and they also formed their own cult and managed to promote warrior cults in young boys. Later, these became conscripted into Hitler’s Nazi Storm Troopers.

Later the Society for Human Rights was formed and it was this that moved into America around 1926. Secret groups were formed and around 1948 a revolution started when Kinsey produced his book. In it he showed America as a highly promiscuous society. Following sponsorship from Rockefeller Foundation he managed to visit all Universities with a philosophy of sexual freedom which went well with young generation America. This was reinforced with pornography and illustrious magazines specially the play boy empire. It actually led women take liberty drives and campaigns. Contraception methods were (1966) established on demand to Americans. It is about this time that abortion-movements as a backup came up to reinforce the Gay/Lesbian movement. By mid 1970s, divorce, abortion, STDs and single-parenthood have broken down the society. These are consequences of the Gay –Movement. This has increased taxation in America. This has produced the Gay-pride. This is the picture of America and it is the picture everywhere.

HOW THEY COME IN:

• They soften up society with pornography and abortion.

• They take on entertainment, print media and Education/Formal/Elite/ Institutions. This special knowledge then puts them in positions to change communities.

• They introduce a loosening of sexual morals.

• They get the highest rank/position personnel e.g. in TV, Radio, and Media.

• Then they put forward debates that ‘Homosexuals are born that way.’

• Then they introduce the Law of non-discrimination (Anti-Discrimination Policy). This opens chances for Gays to access schools, jobs and settlements.

• They engage in advocacy drives and if attacked or denied they then sue for damages.

In conclusion

One cannot win the Agenda. You only have to create the climate where the Gay-movement will not flourish.

Question: What is the picture of the society to you want have in the future?

NB. Gay-movement has a vision of a world that accommodates their lifestyle. It is one without a family structure and it will lead to their downfall.

Questions and comments:

1. Some practicing Homosexuals do not know that what they are doing is actually following Gay-Movement Agenda.

2. I request women to evaluate organisations they join.

3. Your presentations show a picture of economic/social changes that occurred to the World. It means that sex could not lag behind.

4. Is Homosexuality a philosophy?

5. Are transsexuals advancing the Gay-Movement?

6. Can we not use aggressive methods to wipe out Homosexuality?

Responses:

The Gay-Movement has had machinery in place and it uses all persons to promote its vision. The law is in place in Uganda against Homosexuality and it restricts the Gay-Movement.

Overall wrap up By Stephen Langa;

Societies can only survive if strong families exist and sexual activities are restricted to sex in marriages.

EVALUATION:

1. In a few words, what did this seminar mean to you?

2. What major thing did you learn?

3. How can future seminars be improved?

4. What is your advice or general comment?

People commended the organisers and participants and came up with the following as the way forward;

1.    Organising awareness talks in public places like schools, markets etc

2.    Lobby policy makers

3.    Prayer intercession

4.    Form a task force from among the participants to follow up on the conclusions

5.    Strengthening the law

6.    Not to use violence against gays

7.    Good parenting

8.    Dissemination of information

9.    Working with pastors

10.    School awareness program

11.    Strengthening the network against homosexuality

12.    Advocate for family based values in the primary school curriculum

13.    School camps

14.    Control of the media

15.    The gays should join us in the struggle

16.    Establish healing centres.

Announcements

1.    Next Friday there is a volunteer training at the same venue

2.    Sunday15th march, a consultative meeting with parents

3.    The task force group will also be constituted thereafter

SEMINAR CLOSED